BOOK REVIEW: Kramer & Cahn’s Finding Our Families: A First-of-Its-Kind Book for Donor-Conceived People and Their Families
Finding Our Families: A First-of-Its-Kind Book for Donor-Conceived People and Their Families. By Wendy Kramer & Naomi Cahn (published by Penguin Random House 2013)
Wendy Kramer, the founder of the Donor Sibling Registry, and Naomi Cahn, the Harold H. Greene Professor of Law at George Washington University, have written a tremendous book, Finding Our Families. While the book is intended for donor-conceived people and their families, the research methods and advice suggested make it an important book for adoptive families as well.
Finding Our Families is a comprehensive guide. It begins with a discussion of whether to tell a donor-conceived child about his or her origins and very sensitively approaches some of the concerns parents have, as well as the impact of withholding information from the child. In a chapter on “How, When, and What to Tell Your Child,” the authors weave in stories of disclosure from a number of parents and help address questions their offspring want to have answered. The next several chapters unpack the feelings both children and their parents might have, as well as the family dynamics that may be affected by the telling.